We assume by definition we know how to love. The reality of it all is we learn to love from experiences that allow us to observe love. Our views of love can be skewed depending on the manner in which love was presented to us. I myself came from a broken home with abuse. My father would hit my mother rather violently. A few days later he would buy her something, say he will never do it again and tell her he loved her. She would stay in this situation for 7 years. Imagine how different I thought love was. I thought love was controlling, abusive, apologetic and happy.
Actually, love is an intense feeling of deep affection. And affection is a gentle feeling of fondness or liking. In no way could my parents be expressing love for one another. My grandparents, on the other hand, have been married for over 60 years. They have had conflict but it was solved by a conversation and usually very low tones. The totally opposite end from my parents.
Observing love on television made love seem perfect when I was younger. TV made love seem easy. From the Cosby’s to the Bradys, everything always seemed to work out.
I am still learning how to love. I have read and followed many suggestions such as Love Language, The Purpose Driven Life, marriage counseling and The Wait. All have given me tools and positive affirmation of love.
Love is amazing, beautiful, happy, transparent, non-egotistical, warming, endearing, complicated and any other positive words you would like. Love is kind. Love is patient. Love is gentle.
Truth is we should start with the definition and travel through as many positive and healing channels, as many positive suggestions, as many positive examples as possible. Wholeheartedly love yourself so that you can be open to love others. Everything starts in the heart, mind, body, and soul of ourselves. I Love You.
Written by Guest Writer SMG
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